5 end of life regrets

5 end of life regrets

A nurse specializing in palliative care compiled a list of 5 regrets expressed by her patients as they neared the end of their lives. 

  1. I wish I had shown the courage to live a life true to myself-not the life others expected of me.
    Finding the balance between selfishness and listening to our distant drummer is challenging-but, I know, it is important to honor a few of our dreams while we are able. End of life or in the midst of a health crisis isn’t the time to decide you will finally hike to the top of Pike’s Peak.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
    Mostly male patients expressed this regret; but, as a woman who worked most of my adult life, I can relate.  Even if we are not the breadwinners, I think it is also possible for women to squander precious time with hobbies, outside interests, charity work, etc. forgetting to focus on key relationships – usually the ones under our roof.
  3. I wish I had shown the courage to express my feelings.
    The stress of repressed emotion sometimes creates bitterness and resentment that leads to chronic illness.  Honest communication elevates healthy relationships and ends unhealthy ones. Win. Win.
  4.  I wish I had stayed in touch with friends.
    I love Christmas newsletters – especially from friends from long ago.  I love technology that makes it easier to stay caught up.  I love iSissies and the ability to stay connected to my virtual friends.
  5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
    What a tragedy that it is at the end of life that most folks realize that happiness is a choice.  Fear of change has been a major stumbling block.  Promise yourself that today you will find happiness-it is your choice to do so.

Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly, choose happiness.  

Credits: This article first appeared on inspirationandchai.com via Real Farmacy

 Italicized comments by iSissy1 Bonnie Bemis.